Today (July 17th) is mine and Matthew’s 2 1/2 year anniversary.
For 2 1/2 years, we have stuck by each other. We have been through so much. Every couple in a long-term relationship has gone through their fair share of ups and downs, and we are no exception.
Matthew has helped me through so much. He is the one who persuaded me to go to college. He is the one who has helped me live a healthy lifestyle (we have helped each other). He is the one who has shown me what I am worth. He is the one who I can talk to. The one I can depend on. The one who always makes life seem ok. He gives me such a sense of comfort. My 2 1/2 years with him have changed my life for the better.
During my time with Matthew, I have learned so much about being in a relationship. We’re both in our early 20’s, so we both makes lots of mistakes and are still learning about ourselves. Our highs and lows have taught me a lot about how to have a successful relationship, and I wanted to share some advice. I know that no two relationships are the same, but I still thing that someone could take something from what I have to say.
My Best Relationship Advice.
- Accept that you’ll have disagreements. I tell everyone this: if two people agree on every single thing, someone isn’t telling the truth. If you have a problem with something, bring it up. Talk about it. Fix it. Move on. Don’t keep anything to yourself because the truth does come out eventually.
- If two people disagree on every single thing and pick a fight with each other all the time, that’s not good either. It’s all about balance. If you are compatible with someone, you will see eye to eye a lot. However, if something comes up, talk about it sooner rather than later.
- Alone time is good. Make sure to have time for yourself, and make it so that you miss your significant other as opposed to being tired of them.
- The right person will want what is best for you. I don’t think that needs any extra explanation.
- You should be with someone that you can have fun with. No matter what you like to do together, it should be fun, enjoyable, and the highlight of your time.
- Never go to bed angry. Even if you have to stay up all night resolving issues, it’s worth it.
- Don’t be afraid to talk about the future. Talk about marriage. Talk about starting a family. I get that you may not be at this point if your relationship is new, but when you start seriously thinking about it, it is perfectly ok to talk about. Matthew and I started talking about marriage 2 months in.
- Honesty is the best policy in a relationship. If you make a mistake, be open about it. Like I said earlier, the truth always comes out.
- Celebrate each other’s accomplishments, even if they’re small.
- Don’t lose the spark. When you get comfortable with someone, the excitement slowly goes away, and you become well….comfortable. Avoid this by doing things to surprise them, and try new things with them. Never stop going on dates and doing the small things that make them happy. It makes the biggest difference.
Relationships take a lot of work, but they are truly worth it if you are willing to put in the effort. I have learned that couples can get through nearly anything if they try hard enough.
Matthew and I have a lot to celebrate this year. We have been through hell and back, and I am really looking forward to our future. I have a sense of excitement that I haven’t felt in a few months. Anniversaries (even half-anniversaries) are a great reminder of how wonderful the person you are with is. I think Matthew is an amazing guy and I am lucky to have him.
I hope that you have a wonderful Sunday, and a wonderful week ahead. I will be back tomorrow for an all-new post!