I think I need to talk about this because my blog is an outlet for me to talk about my progress in my health, weight loss, and fitness.
I have been classified as obese, and I am still not at an ideal healthy weight yet (according to BMI, not that I take it 100% seriously). I have been called fat on multiple occasions, and yes, it does hurt. When you already feel bad enough about the way you look, having someone reassure you that your thoughts are “true” is crushing to say the least.
I completely feel for anyone who is struggling with their weight because I have been there, and I am still there. Having someone else shame you for your size is awful.
Let me just say one thing though: We cannot fight body shaming with body shaming.
I have seen so many movements that gear towards shaming people who are “skinny”. I have heard songs that are considered to be anthems for self-love, but end up just putting down girls who are thin.
Look, I know that many people (I used to as well) just hate it when thing people complain about heir appearance, but maybe they aren’t happen with their bodies, either? Maybe they want more curves, more muscle, but have a hard time putting on weight or training effectively?
Being overweight is not the only insecurity that people go through. I am personally insecure with my skin issues. I know people who are insecure about their hair, eyes, nose, etc. A friend of mine is very petite, and complains that her torso is short so every shirt looks too long on her.
We all have our insecurities. I have yet to meet a 100% confident person. Don’t get me wrong, I know many people have confidence and I am developing it myself, but nobody is perfect and some things get the best of us. The best thing we can do for each other is simply support each other. Don’t put down the girl who is struggling with her weight. Don’t try to make yourself feel better by claiming that being skinny is unattractive. I hate to be sappy and cliche, but I think that every body type is beautiful in its own way. I don’t think that everyone should look the same.
I want Simply Overjoyed to be a place of acceptance. I think everyone should honor themselves. By this, I am not saying that everyone should accept where they are now and not try to grow or improve, but rather that people should respect themselves and others. Self-respect is the key to making a true change. If you want to be healthier, that’s excellent. If you think you want to lose some weight, ok. If you respect yourself, you will know the limits and you will be kind to yourself. You will also be kind to others because you aren’t so focused on comparisons.
Learn to respect yourself, and the rest comes naturally.
Don’t shame yourself. Don’t shame others.
Life is difficult enough