Hey everyone. Usually, my Sunday Thoughts are kinda sporadic, jumping back an forth from topic to topic, and usually includes a random photo from my life. Today is a little different. It’s actually Saturday night, and I just have quite a bit on my mind that I want to talk about.
I feel so lucky to have people in my life: Matthew, my mom, the rest of the family, my friends, my cat, and all my acquaintances who make my life a little better everyday.
As much as so many people in my life make me happy, I also have people who have really tried to bring me down throughout the years. There have been times where I have been deeply affected by toxic people. I have cried, I have doubted myself, and I have thought about giving up.
Still, I never do. I just keep going. I think that’s all you can really do. You just have to move on from people, and you have to realize that some people will never see the best in you, and that’s not your fault. Some people would rather put you down to make themselves feel better, not realizing that the best way to feel best about yourself is to make others happy.
No matter what you do and how hard you try, there will always be people who won’t appreciate you and won’t treat you well. My mom always told me that no matter what, not everyone will like you. I have accepted this a long time ago, and I understand that my personality just isn’t compatible with everyone. It’s completely ok. However, sometimes, how someone treats you really gets to you, especially when you want that person in your life for whatever reason.
Ultimately, no matter what you do, I have learned that at some point, you have to think about yourself. How long can you take being treated in a way that you do not deserve? Where is your limit? Are they really worth it?
In the past few years, I have asked myself this question multiple times, and the answer to the last question is almost always “no”. Toxic people are not worth the time or effort. It is so much better to surround yourself with people who love and respect you. You are deserving of happiness, and nobody should rob you of a happy, peaceful life.
I know that sometimes all these thoughts and actions are easier said than done. Trust me, I get it. I am still trying to face the facts that some people in my life may never truly appreciate me for who I am. I have to live with that, but it doesn’t have to get to me anymore.
We all deserve the best.
I know that I normally talk about weight loss, veganism, and makeup, but there is so much that goes into my life, and sometimes, I just need to take some time to clear my mind. I am happy that I finally have an outlet for me to do this.
I want anyone who visits Simply Overjoyed to understand how the blog got its name: In August of 2015, I was at a point in my life where I was doing ok, but I felt that something was missing. I wanted to find happiness in both the big and small things in life. I wanted to stay motivated an inspired everyday, and I wanted to find joy even in the simplest of moments, hence the name “Simply Overjoyed”. I like finding happiness in my big accomplishments (my weightloss) and the small parts of my life (the recipes I share, my makeup looks, spending time either in my apartment or outside, etc). I like to try and find happiness in anything. I don’t always feel this way everyday, but it is definitely a philosophy that I try to live by as much as possible. I really take the time to think about how I can do something that can make me happy and make others happy.
I have spent a lot of time working on creating the happiest life that I love living. That has meant letting go of some people and things.
I have decided to distance myself from people who bring me down. Sometimes, I need to be selfish and take time off from those who have hurt me. I am a very forgiving person. I don’t think I have ever let go of anyone for good. However, it takes quite a bit to change my mind. It’s always possible, but it takes a lot of work. I guess I will see how things go. I just need to be true and honest with myself. I shouldn’t have to put up something when I don’t think I deserve to. That’s that.
Ok, I think I’ve said what I need to say. This is probably one of the most personal posts I have ever shared (though it’s super vague). I just think that it is important to talk about how to deal with people in your life who don’t treat you well. I think it’s always best to do whatever will make you happy. The only people in your life should be the ones who add positivity and encouragement. You won’t always get along with your loved ones, and that’s ok. But if someone always makes you feel awful no matter you hard you try, I’m not sure if you deserve that.
I don’t think that I am above anything, but I know that I don’t deserve to be mistreated, so I’m not going to take it anymore.
I am going to be strong. We should be strong together.
We got this.
On a much lighter note, make sure you check out my most recent posts. I shared a yummy Oil-Free Tempeh Burrito Bowl and some workout motivation.